The Fact's of Life

I have worked in the field of Domestic Violence for almost two decades now and strangely enough I still take great satisfaction and pride in helping others clear the aftermath of destruction that reaps havoc in their lives from their so called loved ones. Abuse is reflected and conveyed in many forms; the physical aspect is usually what one thinks of when they hear the word abuse or domestic violence but there is so many other ways to obtain Power and Control over another. The way that an abuser usually controls their victims is to beat them down emotionally.
Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence. The scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the greater the toll on your self-esteem. You become depressed and anxious. You begin to doubt your ability to take care of yourself or wonder if the abuse is your fault.
Strange as it seems I tend to look at my own life with those lovely Pollyanna glasses. Maybe those glasses have slipped down my nose abit to allow me to see things as they really are. So as the old song goes......
Ya Take The good ya take the bad ya take em both and thare ya have The Facts of life, the facts of life. There's a time ya gotta go and show and grow And now ya know about the Facts of life the facts of life. When the world never seeeeeeemmmmmsssss to be liiiiiivveennnnn up to your Dreeeaammss and sudenly your findin out that the facts of life are all about YOU!! (UUUUHOOOOOOOOOHOOOOO)